“Absence diminishes mediocre passions and increases great ones, as the wind extinguishes candles and fans fires.
Change is the one constant in life. Surely, I’ve heard those words many times in my life; however, change – with its ninja force – doesn’t prepare you for a parent’s illness, moving, or the fact that all these events are all happening around the time that your son is graduating, and dare I say writing or any intent purposes therein take a swift toss to the proverbial backseat of longing looks of what was your kick ass work-in-progress and characters, characters that at one time eagerly seduced you with their witty one-liners, but now, stomp off with an over-the-shoulder wave and a sarcastic “Whatever.”
At times, I couldn’t help feeling like I was the one left standing on the outside looking in as my creativity/characters strolled on the opposite side of the cosmos while mouthing “Call me!” Life crises ought to come with a manual. I’d surely be on page 107, paragraph eight by now. With so many emotions and events cascading fluidly, it can be challenging to differentiate an event(s) from being a delay or an opportunity for creative release. My viewpoint changed when I began to see that I could either use this chaos to my benefit or pick the really attractive option: hide under the covers.
During some of the tougher moments, I went back to meditating, journaling, and conversing with other creative people, things I didn’t always have time to do before the world tilted off its axis but have since made a part of my daily regime. The absence actually fueled me for the moment I would be back to doing what I love, writing. It also enabled me to do spring cleaning of things that I needed to let go in one aspect or another while narrowing down my focal points.
The lesson learned? What seems like a delay is often primed with an opportunity to restructure, recapture aspects of life or your craft that are most important to you. You have a choice to wallow in chaos or build momentum for when the sun breaks through the clouds.
I’m all for sunny days…now back to regularly scheduled releases. Stay tuned!